the skinny on relationships

Jul 16, 2025

We’ve all heard the fairytales of The One and watched movies like The Notebook. You know, the idea of that singular soul destined to complete us. But what if I told you there’s more to it than just one perfect love? In the grand tapestry of life, there are three types of profound connections that can transform us: soulmates, karmic connections, and twin souls. Each serves a unique purpose, delivering its own lessons, love, and sometimes, heartbreak. Understanding the nature of these connections helps us appreciate their role in our spiritual and emotional evolution. So, let’s dive deeper into what makes each one unique and why they cross our paths when they do.

soulmates

Soulmates are significant. They come into our lives like gentle teachers, guiding us towards growth and self-discovery. They are the ones who light up our paths, even if only for a short while. Their purpose is to mirror our strengths and expose our shadows, leaving us forever changed. They’re here to trigger your growth, to mirror back to you your strengths and your shadows. And while they can feel magnetic and all-consuming, they aren’t necessarily meant to last forever. Some are romantic, some are friends, and others are those fleeting connections that shake your soul awake. You might have many soulmates in this lifetime, each one a piece of your journey - beautiful, necessary, and transformative.

The magic of a soulmate is in their timing. They show up exactly when you need them most, often as a catalyst for change or a mirror for self-discovery. Their presence can feel like déjà vu or an unexplainable pull. But once their purpose is fulfilled, sometimes they move on, leaving you altered in ways you never imagined. Soulmates are the sculptors of your spirit, chiseling away at the pieces that no longer serve you, and bring love and light, even if just for a moment. They remind us of what is possible, of the joy and depth of connection, and often leave us better than they found us.

karmic connections

The tough-love kind. Born out of unresolved energies and debts from past lives, these connections are here to teach us powerful lessons. They are intense, often turbulent, and serve as catalysts for breaking cycles and healing deep-seated wounds. Karmic relationships are the harsh teachers, revealing wounds we didn’t even know existed, forcing us to confront and heal our shadows. They are the mirrors that demand transformation and rooted in the idea of past-life karma or unresolved issues from previous lifetimes. According to this belief, we carry unresolved emotional or spiritual debts from past lives that need to be worked through in this one. These relationships are often intense and come with challenges, as they are meant to teach valuable life lessons, promote personal growth, and help heal old wounds.

Unlike soulmates, who are thought to be spiritually compatible and supportive, karmic relationships tend to feel more tumultuous. They often involve repeated patterns or cycles of behaviour that are difficult to break. These connections can feel familiar or even fated, often bringing up strong emotions, both positive and negative, as they push each person to confront past patterns, behaviors, and unresolved emotional baggage.

The purpose of a karmic relationship is not to destroy but to transform. They are mirrors of the unresolved parts of ourselves, demanding healing and growth. By facing these relationships head-on, you can release karmic debt and move towards a more harmonious, balanced life. While these connections can be incredibly challenging, they are necessary for spiritual evolution, serving as stepping stones to deeper love and understanding.

twin souls

And then there are Twin Souls. Now, that’s a whole different story. This isn’t just connection - it’s cosmic collision, and you both feel it the moment you meet. It’s an undeniably strange yet oh-so-familiar connection. Potent. Electric. Like nothing you’ve experienced before and nothing you’ll experience again.

A twin soul is your other half. Not in the cliché you-complete-me kind of way, but in the we-are-the-same-soul-split-into-two kind of way. The bond defies logic, shatters space and time, and often disrupts every notion of what love and connection are supposed to be. Two worlds colliding, destined to find each other, no matter the distance, perceived impossibilities, or the lifetimes in between.

When twin souls finally reunite, it’s more than just two people meeting. It’s a fusion. The recognition is instant - an electric jolt that snaps everything into focus. It’s like looking into a mirror that reflects back not just your strengths but your deepest wounds. It’s raw, real, and sometimes incredibly messy. But beneath the chaos is an unshakable knowing, a feeling of homecoming. A remembrance of something ancient and eternal.

Plato described it best in The Symposium when he said, “...and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself... the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other’s sight, as I may say, even for a moment.”

But twin soul connections aren’t all butterflies and rainbows. In fact, they’re far from the romantic ideal of meet, date, fall in love, and build a life together. Meeting your twin flame is like lighting a fire that exposes everything within you. All the fears and imperfections you’ve been hiding are illuminated so brightly, you feel the need to run for cover. And that’s just the beginning. Then comes the undeniable difference between true twin souls, whether it’s age, culture, or physical distance. This contrast is the proof of the connection, as time and space are mere human constructs.

If it’s truly your twin, separation is inevitable, and soon you’ll face the Dark Night of the Soul (DNOS) - a gut-wrenching period where everything you thought you knew unravels. Society’s expectations, cultural norms, human conditioning. It’s painful, isolating, and a kind of agony you wouldn’t wish upon anyone. Call it ego death, soul ascension, whatever you like. It’s the crucible where your own identity gets stripped down to the core and the universe will test your commitment to the bond, asking if you’re willing to shed the layers that keep you small. Only when you’ve let go of all that no longer serves you, when you’ve surrendered control and trust your intuitive self, can union finally take place.

Twin flames don’t just come together for romance. Their bond has the power to shift collective consciousness, to awaken not just themselves but those around them. Their love is fuel for something bigger, and that’s why the connection is often met with resistance, not just from society, but from their own doubts and fears. But when they choose each other, despite the obstacles, they become a force of nature. Two worlds colliding in an earth-shattering cosmic love dance that sends shockwaves through the universe and triggers profound healing.

Whether it’s a soulmate that illuminates your path, a karmic connection that challenges your soul, or a twin soul that shakes the very core of your being, each connection serves a purpose, and all three connections are threads in the tapestry of your spiritual evolution. They show up exactly when they’re meant to, pushing you toward growth, healing, and the kind of love that changes everything. When you know, you know.